Thanks, Bodhi. I think it bothers me for selfish reasons and maybe there is a little jealousy there too. The anniversary of my late husbands death comes and goes and no one has ever once said a word to me about it. Not family or friends. I never wanted a dinner in honor of the date…just someone to acknowledge it and acknowledge my grief. It really bothered me in the early years as I was alone and the grief was overwhelming. Somewhere along the way I decided it was just going to be something that only I remember and I needed to get over the hurt that I felt. So I guess seeing people remember a date like his wife’s death and make such big plans around it is a foreign concept to me and one that I just don’t get.
I feel bad for feeling the way I do about it and that’s bothering me too.
LHW