Thanks, Dee. I know it's true. The tricky part is figuring out what's right for me. Here we discuss and share all kinds of modalities and everyone's pretty open-minded. I'll just say that's not always the case elsewhere. "If you want what we have, do what we did." Well, merely not drinking is not what I want, and mimicking in lockstep people doing that makes no sense to me.
What's really on my mind, and has been since that awful Monday, has been of course Duchess. I would say she is stable but still serious. The medical stuff is too long and complicated for here, but the main concern is for anemia, source of which is still un-ID'ed. One vet did not even discuss a blood transfusion; another made it sound like a no-brainer. For now I've done all I can do.
Whatever happens, I just thank God I'm all there.