That's probably a good idea, about the book!
Being overwhelmed, that's what will hold you up. First things first. Hire a cleaning service to do a complete cleaning of your place. You can be there, watch them, see what they use.
Now, like you said, not all tasks need to be done every day/week. That's part two. Focus on part one.
Watching them will help you get a great idea. Then you can look online for a basic cleaning list (no, not extensive, basic!). But again, that's later on.