I can't help much, my husband never stopped. My journey was about not expecting him to.
If you have a case of the 'if onlys,' getting over that is sometimes just part of growing up? "If only he'd stop drinking, everything would be fine." The things that precipitated the addiction need to be dealt with, for one thing. Life keeps coming at us with new stuff to deal with every day. It's never going to be perfect.
You don't say exactly how a problem is manifesting itself