When my husband quit drinking it was roughly 8 months before he "returned" to me and if he's been drinking this whole time...you may not even like who he really is.
Through my recovery from being a raging co dependent I realized my dad was an alcoholic. So strange to say that since I'm a total daddy's girl. He wasn't mean to us. He didn't abuse us. He provided well for us. But he taught us some nasty habits. Like not showing emotions. I never learned to process my emotions growing up, so I had to learn as a young adult which really sucks. We were lucky I guess he never progressed beyond a high functioning alcoholic but he also died in his 50's because he had cancer. So he could have. Do you really want to wake up 10 years from now wishing you had left a long time ago?
Peace and light
AC