Honestly? If someone ever laid a hand on me that would be a dealbreaker. Emotional and verbal abuse? That is also something I find unacceptable and I would leave. Been there, done that.
Sure, he's going to be the perfect "patient" at a meeting with his team and will likely blame you. I would not do this meeting, but then I'd be changing my address while he's gone.
If you feel like your life is better with him gone, now would be the perfect time to end it.