Welcome Bed, I'm glad you found us.
Most of us wanted to step in and MAKE our qualifier (qualifier is the drinker who qualifies us to be here). If love and effort could stop an alcoholic from drinking, there would be a lot more sober people. Unfortunately, it is only the drinker him/herself who can decide to stop.
I realized with my qualifier that he was probably going to die and my choice was to die with him or not. I chose the "not". It is still one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life.
Let us know how things go with you.