StarrySwirl......I am actually in somewhat amazement of how confident that you are in "accepting him as he is and letting go of the thing that you cannot change"
Especially, since you share that he has fallen into an "almost continuous pattern of drinking and passing out".. It would seem, to me, that this would leave very little room for anything or anyone else.
Isn't that a big truck;load of stuff to let go of?
I am searching my memory, here---and---I can't think of anyone else who has been able to do that---at least, do it happily and comfortably . lol.