I think it is all subjective, but a person who always drinks when out is not a moderate drinker in my book.
I also would consider someone who did that around a recovering alcoholic as lacking empathy at best, boorish at worst. I mean really, can’t you have an ice tea at least sometimes in solidarity?
Of course everyone has their level of acceptance / tolerance to this, but often people in recovery find they simply cannot relate on the long term with drinkers as alcohol mood-alteration can no longer be part of their world. It is often uncomfortable because we don’t have the free “high” of mood-shift so on different page. . .
Too-frequently-tipsy or progressively drunk people may become boring / repetitive / not-so-funny-as-they-think when you are cold-sober—they did for me at least.
On the other hand, occasional moderate drinkers having fun is enjoyable as heck
