Originally Posted by MyGirlGracie

Firecricket,

I always have said that the opposite of love is not hate (two very strong emotions), but indifference. Indifference is where you are headed... it's acceptance without the strong emotions pulling you in two different directions. Once you are fully there, each day forward is wholly in your power.

On a side note, I have learned in my journey here that "support" is really not supposed to be controlling things in your qualifiers life so that they never suffer the consequences of their actions... that is what I am learning is a raging case of co-dependence and enabling. I am so sorry that you have had to deal with your AH for so long, but you are moving in the right direction. Keep putting your energy into being there for yourself and your kids and the rewards will abound. Your AH will do what he does and that is entirely up to him.

I hope your life continues on the upswing and I am proud of you for making some decisions to care about YOU!

MyGirlGracie