Thank you advbike! We went on a 6 month break and I wasn’t speaking to him too much but I guess during that time frame he started smoking the pills and when we began dating again the addiction wasn’t as bad and he was good at hiding it so I didn’t know forsure until it got so bad like it is now. he doesn’t have access to my bank accounts but he is always needing money and selling things which frustrates me because it could go to our kids. I told him if he doesn’t care to stop and lose me then I don’t care if this relationship works but I know it is a lot harder for them to mentally want to get better like you said. I think I need to tell him it’s rehab or he needs to be out of my life until he goes. Just not sure what to do about my toddler and him but I will look into that forum you suggested thank you