Originally Posted by
sage1969 
What you are describing is common behavior where the alcoholic will realise he's "losing" you, and will "hoover " you back in. Hoovering is typical push - pull behavior.
Look at his actions: what he has already done is what he will repeat. Do you really want to continue going through this?
No but I guess he was so great until the last month that I wish we could even dicuss his drinking cos we haven't been able to, if he got help maybe but then my other side reminds me this guy has been able to ignore me for days and days not caring how I feel, not to mention the throwing incident... I guess I am just so confused as I feel I figured out the drinking issue after the fact. Looking back it wa obvious.