Pocohontas......do you see a pattern here?
He does not sound like an alcoholic in recovery......remember, that recovering is very different that just being sober.
You could be on this roller coaster ride forever more......
The only way to get off the rollercoaster ride----is to decide to get off the rollercoaster.
He is not thinking of your welfare, he is thinking of his selfish pleasures in the moment. His Actions tell you that. Look at actions---not words.
You deserve much better than this! You can find much better, but, not as long as you have attached yourself to his star.