Originally Posted by
NewHeart 
Thanks Trailmix
I was worried it was my own fear of vulnerability but I did say my fear was over how fast it was. Ive just never seen someone go so far into the emotional manipulation angle so deeply I thought it must be real. I feel fear around opening up again after this to be honest but I guess I did do well and have to trust I will stop it if I need to
You did have the warning bells and you pushed that aside and you know what, that's ok! We all do that sometimes, it's not a failure - just a learning experience. You are wiser than even you know.
Next time you won't. Try not to worry too much about this going forward, yes, you've had a big shock, but the next person you date might be completely "normal" - you'll know this because you won't feel that fear and if you do you will ask them to slow down (other people make mistakes too). If they respect that, that's a great sign.
You will heal from this, it will take some time, but there will be brighter days ahead.