Sometimes most of the boxes are checked when we meet someone and start to get to know them, most but not all. I think it's telling that you are far along your healing journey that you were able to be open to meeting and getting to know someone, able to be honest and open - hearted, yet when you noticed something was not right, you listened to your intuition and honored what you felt was best for you.
Not everyone is relationship material.
You can love someone yet recognise you're neither of you right for each other, and let each other go.
This sounds like growth and loving yourself and living life to me.