Originally Posted by seekingcalm

Dear Ali,
When I was in this situation, I remember the moment I realized that once I left the relationship, my alcoholic boyfriend would have no one to blame but himself...once he was left all alone, he did decide to stop drinking and get serious about recovery...It would never have happened had I stayed. I was also losing my mind in the process with all of the lies and manipulation. You did the right thing for yourself and for him. He has to get to the point all by himself where he wants to stop and get healthy. As everyone else has said, it's best to leave him to it. The pain you are feeling with get better one day at a time. Take care of you.