I did tell him not to come to my place anymore, but as he's drunk I doubt he will remember and at some point I'll have to say it again. And probably again... The best of intentions was merely me trying to hold on to something that was long gone. I knew better but didn't have the courage to come right out and say it's over for good - mostly because I dreaded the fall out more than the relationship ending. I may have to explore not working from home for a bit, it makes me more 'accessible'.
It's funny you said a buddy, I just told a friend that I've been his caretake for the last couple of years. It's not a title I want to hold any longer.
Thanks trailmix!