I haven't posted on this thread yet because it did bring back many not so nice memories about deceased AH and our forays into couples' therapy . . . for two adults committed to working on growth and mutual relationship goals, therapy could be quite helpful. However, I've never experienced that (and honestly have a mistrust of therapists). It gave deceased AH a laundry list of my vulnerabilities for him to later exploit, and he repeatedly told the therapist that he was happy with our relationship and had nothing to discuss, so she of course said there was nothing to work on and set no further appointments with us.