Yes the "other stuff" can fade off in to the background when the huge thing that alcoholism is at the forefront. Other problems in the relationship for sure but also things in your own life you might want to change or attend to (friendships, work). You might even be in a job you want to change but who's got time for that when all your emotional energy is focused on a dysfunctional relationship!
I can see you are having such clarity about all this right now. That will continue and good for you!