Originally Posted by Payne9

Thank you for sharing that . I did at one point tell him sorry for trying to control his drinking and his drinking is none of my business. To which he said “ yes it is sort of” I also reminded him it was not me that called him an alcoholic, it was him that says that . He said “ I know , you don’t have to point out that, I know what I said” his tone changed when he said this and I immediately changed the subject because I’m so emotionally exhausted I was not going to argue. I did notice he always tells me to “ take it easy” or “ relax”. I’m just noticing things more. He says the same phrases, I’m sure I do too. It is hard because we don’t hate each other. He knows he’s an alcoholic, we’ve had drawn out fights over it , but not once did he say he wanted to quit. So I don’t know how he’s going to be “ working on himself” when he’s drinking alone at home. I know I have so much to learn and unlearn. Because I still feel for him because I’ve seen the potential but I can’t live my life off of potential, especially because I have children .