Originally Posted by
Payne9 
I can’t live my life off of potential, especially because I have children .
Why would you want to? From the little you have told us about him he just sounds like an addict really. This usually goes one of 3 ways. The pressure becomes too great and they just bail, full stop. The pressure becomes too much so they detach but keep drinking or they do what your guy is doing, sitting on the fence. Since you are also sitting on the fence (to his mind I should think), he has nothing to lose. When you realize how great you are together:
He talked about reading how couples get back together after spending time apart because they realized they were the love of each other’s lives etc
Maybe you will come flying back to him and accept him just the way he is!
Also he asked me how I would react if he wasn’t ready in 2 months
This all seems incredibly manipulative.