Thank you suki. That was one of may major questions here.He is trying to convince me that drinking alcohol is fine. But if it's fine, then why did he initially hide it from me for months. And he was never a drinker before. When I brought it up in counseling, he downplayed it and said he has complete control. He also lied and said he never hid it and drinks in plain sight. This might be true now, but only since I discovered all his empty vodka bottles and confronted him.