Hi Bodhi, I’ve done a lot of soul searching over this same topic. I’ve recently decided my drinking buddies, who I met at uni in the 1990s, will have to be sidelined. We’ve been abroad together, weddings, funerals and supported each other through rough times. One friend’s wife died aged 42, and that was tough. But all they do now is drink. I’ve had a few ups and downs myself, and there were no e-mails or text messages which would’ve made a big difference. They’re a bit old school and macho for such reaching out. I’m not going to sit in a pub for their benefit. If I suggest something else, it gets regretted. Sadly, it’s time to move on.
If your friends can’t do anything else except drink, are they really worth keeping hold of?