In relationships, I basically just be me. No detailed explaining or justifying of me. Just me. Nor do I need detailed explanations or justifying from the other person. Doing that helps me figure who is a friend and who is an acquaintance.
I still have friends from 45 years ago when I was an alcoholic. We all drank a lot back then, I just drank more and more frequently than they did. I have been in recovery for 18 years now. They probably still drink, but I honestly couldn't tell you. It isn't important.
They are still my friends. We don't get together very often due to a 3,000 mile geographic difference; but when we do, it is just like I saw them yesterday. It is comfortable. It is friendship.
I couldn't tell you much about my acquaintances from 45 years ago, unless I check google first.
Thanks for your post. It stirred up some warm fuzzy memories. I need to get busy with some emails. Thanks!