I found it easier to simply not get together with drinking friends than it was to worry about how to handle it. That may be rude, but I didn't care. Worrying causes stress. I didn't want to add stress to sobriety. Sobriety was too important, and was priority #1 in all situations with no exceptions Could I have handled being with drinking friends? Maybe, but my sobriety was worth draconian measures, and I'd do it again in a heartbeat if I had to quit all over again. If my friends had asked why I was a no show, I would have told them exactly why, and I wouldn't hold much back.
But that's just me.