Bodhi02

Hi All,

I’m in need of your advice and wisdom. I have a friend group from college made up of 10 women where we get together around 2-4 times a year and they are always big drinking events.

I avoided Friendsgiving this year because I had a procedure done a few days before and it was better for me not to attend. Now they’re asking for what dates work for a Christmas get together in January. I’ve been avoiding the group chat and have not answered which I can continue to do, but I really do care about these people and don’t want them to feel as though I’m cutting them off or rejecting them. I also don’t feel comfortable sharing with all of them (some I have already told) that I quit drinking. I don’t want to ghost them because we have been in each other’s lives for over a decade, but I’ve found through months of introspection that some of these relationships have run their course and I want to move on/it’s not healthy for me to keep exposing myself to these negative relationships.

Any thoughts on how you would handle this situation?