Ive noticed money disappearing since we’ve been married and combined finances. His sister and I discovered that he has been stealing from her and this was my first indication there was a problem. I’m upset now at myself how I had missed so many red flags but I know I need to move forward.
The red flags are everywhere, I am so sorry for your situation.
Protect yourself, protect your money, and find support that will help "you" find your balance. He may agree to anything, but watch his actions and see if they back up his intentions.
Addiction is progressive and gets worse over time. Take time to find your own place and decide if this is how you want to spend your life. The only person who holds the key to your happiness is you.
Good luck.