Dear Sugasnaps,
Ditto on what others have said. I too, strongly recommend you get a sponsor to help you understand the steps (and how she applied the spiritual principles contained within). I also have been helped tremendously by the book already mentioned, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions aka "the 12&12". It has an entire chapter on each step and each tradition. I soaked it up like a sponge. Hang in there! Honesty, openmindedness and willingness can lead you to a life better than you dared imagine possible!