Originally Posted by edoering

For instance, there’s a reason making amends ISN’T the first step of the 12 steps. There can be so much self-hatred early on that it can be overwhelming without a lot of grace/forgiveness. I don’t love watching/being part of this stage of healing because I saw a lot of “not taking responsibility” for themselves from the outside. In hindsight, I realized if they had to really face taking responsibility for their actions during active addiction and even now, they might crumble. Programs often try to build up a person’s coping skills/emotional stability first before throwing them in the deep end of honestly facing their past.