My personal experience on charity is this----across my life I have been helped by so many people---I. for sure, would not be where I am now, without the help of others---some known and some strangers---I am sure that some never even knew how much their generosity affected me.
At the time I received----I, often never had a chance to return the favor.
Now, whenever I am in a position to be a giver---I don't feel co-dependent or "superior" or bad about the giving. I feel grateful for the chance to pay it forward.
I felt that the Universe valued me when I was in need and it was given to me. When I do the giving---I feel like I am valuing others---a person or creature of some part of the Universe that we are all interdependent with.
It feels Right.