That victim mentality is a tough one to change, as most of us were given that gift in our early formative years. Good to hear you are working on it, i am as well and it's a stubborn one isn't it!
For me the victim mentality has little to do with drinking and i like to keep the two separate as not everything in my world can be blamed on drinking. I had a victim mentality before i started drinking. However i know if i keep working on it the it will prevent me from having to drink because the mental load gets too much.