Sounds you are doing great!!!! And it sounds like you have come a long way. I used to play the victim. I used to blame other people, situations and even genetics for my problems. The thing is, many people around me agreed. People felt sorry for me cause of the cards I was dealt. Abused when I was a kid, etc. Eventually I realized that these were all excuses. We all have scars, but I have to power to move on. Today, my choices are my choices and I take full responsibility for my actions. I have the power to control my life and destiny. As you probably know, it takes a long time to get to this point. If I decide to drink today, it's because I chose to drink. My choice, my problem. John