You sound great when you're sober, Disser. Glad you're drinking less, but you know what you have to do. You can absolutely have a great life with friends and a great girlfriend if you just put down the booze. It certainly worked for me. Otherwise we just keep slipping back into the same behaviors, and drown in our shame and guilt. I also had problems with women because as BABM said we have no self-esteem when we are drinking. We feel like losers, even though we are not. We are just addicted to the booze. AA really helped me to get sober. They have a great approach and the guys are no BS. They tell it like it is. I think they would help you, man. Just try a few meetings, see what you think. And keep posting on here also, we like hearing from you.