Linking up with anything that keeps you focussed on abstinence is a good idea Janine. Women's meeting of AA sounds good. You mentioned SMART. Good idea also.
How about getting yourself a therapist? Your need to treat depression/anxiety is important.
Addictions counsellor?
The point is to be proactive Janine. Anything that assists you in not drinking is the way to go. To start. And it does get easier.
Hope you continue to post. You're worth it.