Hey Woodland
Good to see you again. I had wondered about how you were doing.
Congratulations on your Al Anon work. Step four is very good.
We are ALL a work in progress.
I am tempted to think that your wife doesn't sound very sorry if she is trying to take your inventory. The truth is, none of us know what she is thinking, least of all me. Maybe she really is recovering, maybe not. I just don't know. I wish her the best.
In my own recovery, I have felt "stuck" at times, and found that to move beyond "stuck" places requires pure courage. Recovery is a life-long process.