I never had a chance at starting any kind of sober life until I found SR and spilled my guts out about things like all the drunk driving.
Never had a chance at maintaining a sober life without beginning to sort through the issues, like the negativity that you encounter constantly.
Drinking was based on lies. It was necessary to get through the day. It helped deal with the stress. It was part of being an adult in the modern world. It helped me fit in. It made a fishing trip or vacation more fun. I was capable of managing it, next time. All lies.
Recovery to this point would never have been possible without the honesty.
I sometimes sense that people here haven't really come to grips with the situation. Perhaps they can't quite bring themselves to let go. Maybe there is still some hope that they can manage it and go through life as a "normy".