Aellyce,
Don't let one guy stand for this place.
I can only speak for myself, but I really truly hand on heart, only want to help, and through doing so, I am helped. Not by asking usually, its just the nature of this place.
If you want, you or anyone else can manipulate me easily because I am a what you see is what you get kind of gal. I am not out there looking for subtle hints that maybe someone is secretly doing stuff. Maybe I should do that more, but its not my speed. If I see it, I will raise my hand, probably by PM because I don't want to embarass anyone. But usually I miss it.
Which is why its so great that there are are so many people here each giving their little piece to try and help a bunch of strangers and ourselves be a bit better. Maybe, On a good day.
Peace and love.