Hi Sueby. I'm sorry to hear your AH fell off the wagon again. I can so relate to your post as my partner was sober for two months and then got obliterated a week ago. I felt so betrayed and disappointed, but I have to find a way to distance myself from his relapses. They are not about me.
You are lucky to live apart from him. I live with my partner and I feel trapped in our apartment when he gets drunk. I should probably consider going to a friends house or a hotel the next time. I would love to think there won't be a next time, but I'm a realist.