That's OK Ican. Believe it or not I am going through similar with my daughter.
She has mental illness and has not stopped 'harassing' me for months. Seventy two phone calls in one day. Kicked off again this morning. Aaarrrggghhh! I have been trying to help and support for years to no avail. Can't do it anymore, I'm getting sick. She cannot see this.
I've only just taken up on support from a 'carer support agency' and it's been really helpful. The advice I'm getting is to 'step back' no matter how painful. She has to take responsibility eventually. Maybe she won't? I just don't know. I care, and it is so very difficult.
Whatever the case, whatever I'm doing now is not working, and nothing will change, if I don't change.
We've got to hold the line Ican. And we will.
Standing by you.
Edit: I wanted to respond earlier, but the phone was ringing. Lol