Originally Posted by
pizza67 
It might be, if he had friends. His sibling has their own family and I don't see the in law allowing him in. I guess it’s a possibility.
Tonight he tried to corner me into picking “commitment to the marriage,” file for divorce, or seeking couples counseling which I will NEVER again subject myself to with him. He specifically said no trial separation, he’s being “tortured” because I won’t pick one or the other. Never mind that he would make my life a hellscape even more than it is now.
Well at least it's a possibility. He said no trial separation, that's completely different from what I am suggesting. Give him his space, offer it to him, say go for a while and be with your family and your church friends and think and we can talk in a couple of weeks.
Then go to the lawyer.
Or, you know, dandylion's suggestion is excellent, that sounds like a good plan to me. You can either act or this will be your life for years to come.