Originally Posted by
Cura 
The idea of leaving to make him 'see what's at stake' feels manipulative and makes me think it would only inspire short term change or make things worse, but my counsellor says that if it triggers my PTSD and is causing stress I should consider leaving him...
If people are telling you that it will shock him into action, that would be the wrong reason to do it. It might, but - it probably won't. And leaving just to shock him WOULD be manipulative. Your counselor isn't telling you to do that *to him* but to do it *for you.*