Originally Posted by
PeacefulWater12 
my martyr like, crappy holier than thou attitude. Me trying to "fix" or "save" him. The sheer arrogance I was showing seems unreal now. Judging myself so much better than him.
Ohhh, yeah. I was in therapy and my therapist finally asked me what the payoff was to staying with my husband, because as he put it, "There has to be one." I think for me, it was mostly fear about my financial situation and unwillingness to admit the whirlwind romance was a mistake, but yes, maybe a tiny bit of being superior.