When to talk to AH about boundaries
I’ve been around this board on and off for years. My AH is currently on a 5 day bender. His drinking is absolutely out of control and I have been doing some pretty stupid codie things. I actually went and bought his vodka four times. I do not want him to drive and get a DUI because I don’t want him to hurt anyone and we are on a pretty tight budget right now. However, I have hit a wall with this. I wrote out a list of boundaries and want to go over them with him but he has not been sober since New Year’s Eve day.
I know it won’t do any good to talk to him when he’s drinking.
My question is when do I talk to him? Do I wait until he’s detoxed or do I do it when he’s feeling sick?
We’ve been together for 30 years and I’ve watched his alcoholism get worse over the years. It’s time for me to put the hard boundaries out there with the very real consequence of me leaving him.