Drinking excessively is a sure sign something is wrong. Alcoholism doesn't require a set of situations to happen. It happens over a period of time and is progressive. Meaning that it never abates in it's skill to kill. It's very slick and cunning, even when you least expect it. Talk to you husband and bring him online here. He may be the one that needs the answers. Some people realize before it's too late (dead) that alcohol will bring them down. I was one of the lucky ones and got the help I needed. An education on why I drank like I did was key for me. Ya know, neurotransmitters and all that sort of stuff........=) Hope that helps you some into the insight of the alcohoic mind. It's not pretty at times, but neither is on your knees begging to die........Been there and done that......... There is hope and there is life after the drunkeness wears off........... OH and the two year olds......Ha,Ha, aren't they just great.....So full of life and wonderment.......=)