I’m so sorry your father said that Chris - It’s absolute nonsense of course, bought on by the drink.
My parents have over the years had harsh words for me too. They’re not alcoholics in my case but they have been at times as mad as the proverbial cut snake.
What not drinking gave me was the ability to step back and judge those kinds of statements on their merits....and statements like those have no merit, in my opinion.
People lash out for all kinds of broken, corrupted reasons. Just because someone else says it does not mean I have to own it - even when that someone else is my father.
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