Hi Jenel,
It has been over 2 years since I have seen my son. Around that time, I said something about how mean he gets when he drinks. I also asked that he not come to our home drunk or hungover, as he had done previously. He decided that I needed to be cut out of his life rather than change his behavior or get help. I love him so much, and I miss him, but I believe with all my heart, that it is only by suffering the consequences of his behavior that he will perhaps seek recovery from alcoholism. Other family members pretend all is well, but that helps them not to deal with it...doesn't help him at all. It hurts to be in this situation, but I have faith and am hopeful that things will get better. I wish the same for you and your family. I am glad you posted here. This is a wonderful place to find support, and experience and wisdom and compassion.