it just seems like he should be more understanding
What he should be or do, doesn't matter as much as what you should be and do. Do you want to be sober and what are you doing about that?
Doing is an action verb. I like words that end in "ing" to describe my journey. "ing" is the present and future. Take "ing" out and you are left with the past.
I am be
ing and liv
ing as a sober person for today. I am listen
ing to other sober alcoholics. I am tak
ing suggestions from other sober alcoholics. I am shar
ing my successes and my failures with other sober alcoholics. I am inventory
ing my actions and look
ing for ways I could improve and strengthen my sobriety. I am not allow
ing myself to become complacent. I am repeat
ing actions that work and discard
ing those that don't. I am stay
ing vigilant about my pursuit of sobriety and striv
ing towards the best life I can, because
I am worth it!
That is my plan for today and I am following it.
Towards that end, I am getting in the shower and going to a meeting with other alcoholics. After the meeting I will be spending time talking with another member and we will help each other by gut talking and laughing with each other about our lives and ouselves. When I get back home, I will be logging back into this site because that is an action that works for my sobriety.
Shower time, because I am staying vigilant.
On a somewhat side note: Not everything I do during a 24 hour day would seem to be recovery oriented...
Today I will also be spending quality time with my wife and my dog. I plan on cutting and gathering firewood to keep the house nice and warm. I will be listening to chamber music while I am cooking a chicken and okra gumbo for dinner. Later on I will be diving into course work on my computer coding and programming class...
but it all is!
...Even riding my motorcycle, which will be my means of getting to the meeting.