You cannot or perhaps I should say, should not, compare your directness with your friend to Christina's directness on this board. She is an invaluable member and has helped many people, myself included.
What I wrote were my thoughts on directness - I did not, am not and would not say anyone here is guilty of the same - in fact I stated pretty clearly that I had done worse than I have seen others do. My reply to this comment is because I WILL NOT just let this be about comparing people - or my judgement on someone else's behaviour, thankfully I'm not a mod and that is not my responsibility.
My post was about how much I value FOB but my reasons why I value far less directness at the expense of other things. The OP ties the two together - I don't view them as one.