Originally Posted by
velma929 
Yes, this is how alcoholics are. He loves you, I'll bet - but he loves his drugs more. Maybe he needs them more. Of course he told all his friends how great you were; he wanted them to see *him* as not some drunk but a guy getting his life together. Now the excrement has hit the fan, the reality of a totally dependent human entering the scene, and frankly, he can't keep up the facade.
I'm sorry for what brings you here. Your boyfriend believed, or wanted to believe, all those things he was telling people. Ignoring you is about the booze, but...the booze is about whatever he's not facing about himself.
Thank you for responding. I believe that. He’s self medicated for things I probably know nothing about. I just don’t understand why he would say he wasn’t into the relationship anymore. Why be so cold? I supposed it’s easier to put up a wall than deal with your reality and be vulnerable. And then this whole pregnancy situation and his silence is extremely difficult.