Yep - they need to be honest... but my hatred can be contained to the disease, I don't see much of a connection between the two (for me).
From what I've heard around the tables, the person we know just isn't there during active addiction.... just not. He/she comes out while coming down or newly sober or sober... until then, the addictive personality just ain't the person I know. And THAT personality will do anything to be fed...
When I was drinking, my tolerance built to incredible levels,my "hangovers" were likely just withdrawal, and I was starting to have to impacts to work, social and self esteem... but I did not have cravings. I did not have to seek out my DOC because it was legal. So in those ways, I still have trouble understanding the animal that is addiction.